Few weeks before while we were doing chit chatting during lunch hours, we came across a discussion about "after marriage how the life is going to be?". (You might think "I'm not married then how come you can talk about this as if you had previous experience". Yes, you are correct. I don’t have previous experience, hmm what to do, but I can put forth my views right ha ha.). For few people it was great and for few it sounded dull.
But everyone had a opinion that after marriage don't dream and expect much, coz when I told them how beautiful it will be when you woke up in the morning to get a good coffee without even brushing your teeth (bed coffee I wanted to say). Your wife getting up so early in the morning and looking fresh after taking bath and wearing a beautiful dress which you like and coming to you smiling and asking you to get up. You are asking her for some more minutes of sleep request! and she is showing her dissent and pulling your bed spreads from you. (Doesn’t it sound like some movie!) When I said this everyone bursted out laughter and said "Sajith, is this your wish list? Never even think like this gonna happen. May be the first day, if you are really lucky then it could happen! I asked why not after that? They all said C'mon man what you are saying might happen in 50's and not now. May be it can happen like this and joked. “In one tamil movie, the girl friend of our hero tries to wake him up in the untimely hours (2am) and asking him to eat hot idlies and our hero cries out coz he doesn’t like her”. (Rajini & Radha)
I started to argue with them why it wont happen and started my as usual dialogues. “When you want to achieve something if you think you can and give a little push then it will happen”. If you really love your partner and ask her to treat a surprise to you one day, she will definitely treat a surprise. But don’t expect that surprise to happen everyday then it will not be a surprise at all and don’t expect such surprise to happen without telling it as a wish!
After I said this, they started to think. I was happy that I made them think and may be they might try out in the near future!
Audiences : Ladies & gentlemen present so this discussion was not one sided.
A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
Dave Meurer, "Daze of Our Wives"
