How my partner has to be.

Since am in the ages of going to enter the next phase of life I had dreamt of how my partner has to be and even had funny discussions with my friends and colleagues. But no one was able to give a clear cut definition on how you have to live.

Thought everyone is learning lessons in life. So I went through googling to find out anyone has written like that. Found a good article. Our Relationship Making it Stronger

It answered most of my doubts. Hope it will be useful for you too. Waiting for the partner to implement :)

I believe that [everyone] is the keeper of a dream - and by tuning into one another's secret hopes, we can become better friends, better partners, better parents, and better lovers.
Oprah Winfrey (1954 - ), O Magazine, June 2003

Be Content with what you have!

I have seen many people in lives who will not get satisfied with whatever they have. They always fret and fume on things and forget to enjoy the life for the god's gift they have given. They will do anything to attain that particular goal. This is good, everyone has to set goal in life and has to strive hard to reach that destination. But the saddest point here is, once they have reached their destination they think about the mistakes that has happened and finally forget their happiness. In the pipeline they also make people surrounding them worrier.

I went through an interesting article which discusses about the same.

Zen Lessons

Family vs. Friends

It’s Saturday afternoon and you and your friends are planning to go to the movies and then spend the night together. Just as you start to get ready, your dad reminds you it’s your aunt’s birthday party and the whole family is going out to dinner to celebrate. How can this possibly end without a huge argument?

One of the greatest sources of tension between teenagers and their families is the struggle to balance individual wants with family expectations. As you struggle to become more independent and more interested in being with your friends, your family is trying to figure out how to deal with the changes in you and your interests. Where you once spent most of your free time with your family, you may find yourself wanting to spend more of it with your friends. Parents may get their feelings hurt or feel as if they are losing control of the family during this period. And you might feel angry that so many family demands are placed on you. There are a few things you can try to make it a little easier to ease the tension.

* Make your plans in advance and ask your parents if there is anything else planned at that time.

* When something with your friends interferes with a family event, try to figure out if there is any way you could do both. In other words, could you spend a little time with each group? Or could you go to the family event and ask if next time you could choose to be with your friends? Or could you invite a friend to also join in the family event?

* Suggest something you would really like to do with your family. Sometimes parents feel better just knowing their teenager wants to spend time with them.

There are sure to be times when you won’t be happy with the outcome because you’ve either disappointed your parents or had to miss out being with your friends. You can diffuse a lot of the anger and tension if you show consideration for the feelings of your family as well as those of yourself and your friends.

People come into your life for a reason

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away Some times they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

How to create good work habits

We first make our habits, and then our habits make us: John Dryden (poet, critic).
Dryden couldn't have been more right.
Take a small action that you perform every day. Its cumulative effect (over days, weeks, months and years) could be huge.
Let's say, in 2001, you decided to read a new article related to your field of specialisation daily. By 2006, you would have read 1,825 articles by just devoting 10 minutes to this habit everyday. You would have also enhanced your level of knowledge, expertise and authority in your chosen field.
Avinash Johnson, 28, a graduate from the Indian Institute of Technology -- Kharagpur, has handled challenging assignments with General Electric during his stint with them. Now a senior software professional with Oracle, he has a high stress job with multiple demands on his time. According to Avinash, his life would be chaotic without good work habits. He zeroes in on four habits that have helped him the most.
1. Avinash religiously maintains a list of tasks to be done and sticks to it, updating the leftovers in the next day's list.
2. To handle the stress, he meditates for 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes after coming back from work.
3. He replies to e-mails immediately after reading them. This habit, he says was the hardest to develop, but is extremely rewarding. It saves him time; he does not have to go through the e-mail again, which he would have had to do if he replied later. It also reduces the clutter in his inbox -- and his mind.
4. Avinash does not carry work home, though he is always tempted to do so. This has helped him maintain the much-needed balance between work and life.